For example, if I am looking to be in a successful romantic relationship, I may want to deeply consider what I am looking to receive from this relationship. I may discover in this inquiry that I am wanting to feel appreciated for who I am and I want to be with someone who finds me, as I am, totally attractive; and I, them. Laughing joyously together may be one of the characteristics of a relationship I'm looking for, or someone that meets me clearly and authentically on an emotional level.
Some affirmations that I can work with given this example could be:
- Thank you that I am in a perfect-for-me romantic relationship that is deeply fulfilling. I am with someone that wholeheartedly appreciates me for who I am as I continue to discover and uncover myself. I find this person deeply attractive and they are deeply attracted to me. We enjoy each others' company and senses of humor. We show up for each other in emotionally available ways. I am grateful that this or something better is manifest for me now.
Once I set my affirmations, I then commit to them and empower them with my intention. I focus on my part in creating the conditions for this to occur and let go of the outcome. My focus becomes, in this example, on discovering and uncovering who I am on the deepest levels and what is important to me and honoring that. I look at my own emotional availability. Am I ready for a relationship such as this? Am I ready to open wholeheartedly to someone?
Based on the answer to this, I may need to do some inner work. I may need to modify or add to my affirmations a willingness to release any blockages that keep me from being ready to be in an emotionally powerful intimate relationship. I focus on presencing myself in this moment and open to receive. (<--This is important!)
Another aspect of the Companioning the Sacred Journey Introductory Courses is our attention. We gather our attention in the only place we can experience these things we desire in our lives--the present. We focus on showing up for our lives and what the universal unfolding presents us moment by moment through increasing our awareness. And in doing so, we experience the divine, unrepeatable moment of our lives. Our sacred journey.
Can you see the difference between this and having an expectation for the outcome? Expectations are limited by the narrowness of our small ego-based mind and its imaginings. I've noticed that the divine unfolding shows me situations far more awe-inspring and jaw-dropping than my mind could have ever thought up! But, I have to let go and be present in this moment to receive them.
When I focus on what my mind generates and expects, I'm more often than not highly disappointed. When I focus on cultivating conditions and being present, I'm far more often humbled in a good way by what I see and experience. If I notice I've become obsessed with wanting a particular something, I consciously try to forget what I think I'm looking for and tune into what is in front of me. It is usually then that I find a gift that I wouldn't have been able to see or receive while immersed in my desire and expectation.
Coming from a place of intention and cultivation, rather than expectation, is a far more rewarding experience on this sacred journey. What has been your experience with intentions and expectations?