In the conversation, hosted by Nils Palsson, and Laureen Leigh, included Denise Rushing and Loretta McCarthy, Denise reflected on an awareness she and I had almost simultaneously a few years back. (A hundredth monkey experience?) The awareness was about dropping our current path of changing some of the current memes and existing paradigm through trying to change the minds of the people in it. We both recognized how important it was to just begin living in the solution.
It's a form of "Be the change you wish to see in the world," which has a tendency to create a situation of attraction rather than overt promotion. Of leading rather than insisting, which has a tendency to lead to resistance, as we discovered.
It also lends itself to a new perspective--from one of all of us needing to think the same and be on the same path for the new paradigm to emerge, to one of acceptance and diversity as the new paradigm emerges. When thinking of natural systems and sustainable behavior, I like to look to the human body as an example, as it is an exquisitely beautiful manifestation of complexity, diversity, cooperation and expression.
If we were to all think the same and be on the same path--have the same world view--we would be very simple, like singe-celled organisms. In the body, it is important that each of the sub-systems operate as they do for the whole complex system to successfully maintain itself. We wouldn't last very long as a human if we were all liver cells, or all heart cells, or all immune system cells--that would be a de-evolution. Each system is necessary for the whole to operate efficiently and fully. In the midst of all this complexity and diversity, there is stability (but not stagnation--which equals death).
Nature is also is a good place to look when wanting to understand our current social systems and discover new, optimum ones. I liken the transformation of the current upheavals within our decaying militant, top-down governance systems (while simultaneously experiencing the emergence of conscious, self-organizing, diverse and grass roots systems) to the emergence of a butterfly from the cocoon.
In the process, the butterfly is literally forming and organizing itself within the safety of a dying and decaying caterpillar's tomb. The caterpillar has lived it's life fully--necessarily in fact--and then becomes the container for the butterfly to germinate and be born. From the inside of the cocoon, there is a progressive shifting and changing. From the outside, when the butterfly is born, it looks like an evolutionary leap.
In my final project report for my degree, I posited the inquiry of whether there is sometimes a need for the decaying systems to continue their fight to remain, much like the current paradigm is trying to hold on to its values and forms of governance, in order to keep a form--a cacoon--long enough for the "evolutionary leap" to occur. Maybe what we're experiencing now is both the dying and decaying caterpillar and the emergence of the idea of the butterfly.
In this view, it is important for each and every participant to do what they know in their heart to do. It's why "Soul-u-tion" is written as it is is because it is about you ("u") and your soul--what is it from the very depths of your soul that you are so very moved to do? What inspires you? What is your passion? What do you HAVE TO do? What can you NOT not do? What is the very nature of your being?
When considering it this way, everything from the declining and emerging system organization styles to heart-based action, procreating, cleaning up the planet, managing waste, defending territory and resources through aggressive action (much like the immune system does in the body)--the whole gamut may be necessary for our system survival at this moment.
Now, when I think I want to change a person's mind, belief, value or role in the world, I try to remember this analogy of the emerging butterfly fighting against the crusty and decaying chrysalis. The butterfly doesn't spend time trying to change the chrysalis into a butterfly, as it is the chrysalis that helped create the conditions for its very emergence, but rather continues to become the best butterfly it can and with that strength--that butterfly-ness--it emerges to the exquisite beauty of its being and wonder of its freedom.